We were grabbing a bite of lunch at a small cafe, in a mall, right across from a booth that sold jewelry and where ears could be pierced for a fee. A mother approaches with a little girl of six or seven years old. The little girl is clearly stating that she doesn’t want her ears pierced, that’s she’s afraid of how much it will hurt, that she doesn’t like earrings much in the first place. Her protests, her clear ‘no’ is simply not heard. The mother and two other women, who work the booth, begin chatting and trying to engage the little girl in picking out a pair of earrings. She has to wear a particular kind when the piercing is first done but she could pick out a fun pair for later.
"I don’t want my ears pierced."
"I don’t want any earrings."
The three adults glance at each other conspiratorially and now the pressure really begins. She will look so nice, all the other girls she knows wear earrings, the pain isn’t bad.
She, the child, sees what’s coming and starts crying. As the adults up the volume so does she, she’s crying and emitting a low wail at the same time. “I DON’T WANT MY EARS PIERCED.”
Her mother leans down and speaks to her, quietly but strongly, the only words we could hear were ‘… embarrassing me.’
We heard, then, two small screams, when the ears were pierced.
Little children learn early and often that ‘no doesn’t mean no.’
Little children learn early that no one will stand with them, even the two old men looking horrified at the events from the cafeteria.
Little girls learn early and often that their will is not their own.
No means no, yeah, right.
Most often, for kids and others without power, ”no means force.”
The new regulation attempts to do this by further insulating the employers from contraception coverage. Instead of notifying insurers of their unwillingness to pay for contraception, now the employers can just notify the federal government. The agencies (presumably HHS and the Labor Department) will handle things from there. Employees can still get their contraception coverage, but employers no longer have to contact insurers to make that happen.
…With this new regulation, the Administration is basically calling the Court’s bluff, as Ian Millhiser puts it at ThinkProgress—to force the Court, once and for all, to decide whether any workaround passes muster or if the contraception requirement itself is simply unacceptable. As Nicholas Bagley, blogger and University of Michigan law professor, says, “It’s not easy to see why letter to HHS would make a difference, morally or legally—but it might. These are religious objections, so, to some extent, it depends on what adherents to that religion believe.”
That’s the logic of Hobby Lobby, which many of us never liked. One reason is that it inevitably opens up all kinds of other questions. If employers can claim religious objections to covering birth control, then why not transfusions or transplants or stem cell therapies or vaccinations? Who makes the decisions about what’s an acceptable religious objection and what is not? If asking employers to write a two-sentence letter places a burden on their religious freedom, what, pray tell, wouldn’t? And if employers can defy regulations on health insurance by citing religious objections, what other rules can they avoid obeying?
“This is why everybody was so worried about the Hobby Lobby decision in the first place,” Bagley says. “The Court proved itself extremely accommodating to employers who claimed religious objections to neutral laws. The question is, where does that end?”
last night a guy said to me “you are very, very pretty” and i said “i know” and he said like patronisingly “you KNOW?” and i said “you think you’re the first person to ever compliment me?” and he didn’t know where to go from there
Joss Whedon: The Biography follows his development from a creative childhood and teenager who spent years spent away from family at an elite English public school, through his early successes, which often turned into frustrating heartbreak in both television (Roseanne) and film (Buffy the Vampire Slayer; Alien: Resurrection). He took the chance to reinvent his girl hero on a baby television network, and the resulting success and confidence led him to produce four more television series, several movies and Marvel comic books. Through it all, Whedon continues to reinterpret and reinvent storytelling on his own terms.
The book includes extensive, original interviews with: Joss and his wife Kai, Nathan Fillion, Tim Minear, David Greenwalt, Anthony Stewart Head, Sarah Michelle Gellar, Tom Hiddleston, Mark Ruffalo, Clark Gregg, Chris Hemsworth, Cobie Smulders, Jeremy Renner, Samuel L. Jackson, Kevin Feige, Joe Quesada, Jeph Loeb, Drew Goddard, Marti Noxon, Jane Espenson, Andrew Stanton, Howard Gordon,Neil Patrick Harris, Rob Thomas, and many more.
"Though Whedon’s many fans are fairly familiar with the ups and downs of his career, the many frank quotes from Whedon, his friends, family, and coworkers make Pascale’s absorbing bio a must-read." —Booklist
Joss Whedon: The Biography is an insightful, entertaining, engaging, and intimate account of the life and work of one the most talented and successful artists of our time. Writer Amy Pascale paints her portrait of Whedon adeptly, often serving not as an author, but rather a facilitator, compiling insights from a variety of sources to construct a compelling narrative spanning from Whedon’s grandparents through the modern era to his successes within the Marvel Cinematic Universe. Pascale draws upon many individuals, including Whedon himself, to give the readers a true understanding of writer and director’s motivations, creative process, struggles, humor, and personal convictions, which evolve and mature over the course of many decades and experiences. — Geek Scholars
Pascale has certainly done her homework, and has produced a great book, and it’s rare that film/TV autobiographies are this enjoyable. But just like much of Whedon’s work, it’s smart, funny and cool, and should definitely grace any geeks bedside table. — Flickering Myth
Caveat: I download a lot of free mixes and compilations and I’ve only listened to a few of them. So if it’s a band/song I don’t know, I skipped it. I also skipped comedy album tracks and random audio files.
Fiona Apple – Love Ridden
Mariachi El Bronx — I Would Die 4 U (Prince Cover)
Ani DiFranco — Untouchable Face (live) (whereas stillscape’s iTunes wanted you all to know about her Beatles love, mine has gone to Ani on every other song.)
Doris Day — I Enjoy Being a Girl
Stone Roses — She Bangs the Drums (I did not recognize this at first because I fell in love with the Kelly Reverb Mix version of this over 10 years ago and completely forgot what the original song sounds like.)
Mouse Rat — The Pit
The Wonder Stuff — A Wish Away
Jill Sobule — Supermodel
Muse — Feeling Good
Julian Cope — World Shut Your Mouth
(also of note: most of my music listening is the same stuff that i listened to in high school and college)
“"Women are the niggers of gender," the email said. "If you killed yourself, I wouldn’t even fuck the corpse."
I blinked at my phone, fighting simultaneous urges to hurl my phone across the room in anger and cry. Later that day, someone texted me my address — telling me they’d “See me when I least expected it.”
I haven’t been out to my car at night by myself since January 2nd.
At the library, I overheard a teen boy talking on his cell phone:
Boy: “Hello? [pause] I’m at the mall, mom. [pause] I’m in a store. [pause] It’s a very quiet store. [pause] I’m in the back of the store, I don’t want to be too loud. [pause] It’s a sports store. [pause] I’ll be home soon, bye.”